Friday, January 29, 2010

How do we relate these days?

I stood behind a mother and her teenage daughter in the supermarket. The queue was long and protracted and they stood there chatting. In the mother’s right hand she held a piece of rolled beef and in the other a bottle of wine; obviously celebrating, I thought.
The girl poked the meat and watched with fascination as the blood, held in place by the clear plastic wrapping, squished around the piece of meat. She recoiled and with a disgusted look on her face exclaimed a loud, “Eur! That’s disgusting!” Her mother laughed and pointed out she will happily eat it once it is cook.
“But that’s different, its not full of blood, that’s just gross.”
I thought back to when I still taught in schools and remembered the growing response to any form of biological inspection of the inside of anything.
In the early 1980s we still showed the position of organs within an animal and dissected one for them to see it in reality. Some would find it repulsive, but they were few and far between maybe one or two in a class of 28. There were always children fascinated by what they saw and it engaged them enough to not only switch them on to biology but also get some of them to understand the actual size and positioning of organs within themselves. By seeing it in reality they made the connection of it being real, and that these parts were real within them also. In many ways it helped them appreciate so much more, they made connections between animals and the bits they ate. They could connect the idea of breeding for the express purpose of killing for our consumption and this gave them the opportunity to decide whether they continued to buy into it or opt out and become vegetarians (all be it everything except burgers!).
Something changed, I am not sure what it was, but it was fuelled by government intervention which pretty much banned all dissections, so much so there are doctors and surgeons who haven’t seen a live specimen of a human’s insides until they get a chance to operate for real. A scary thought.
So today there are children who have the knowledge to make bombs, use machine guns (in the 3D world of gaming) and spare no mercy when it comes to people they come across. The mow down people in this gaming world and then press the reset button to kill them over again. Do they realise the connection between guns and real blood and real death?
Do they still have any concept of the pretty little lambs bouncing around in a field one minute and lamb burgers in Iceland the next? I was already hearing answers to simple questions such as, where do you think lamb chops come from as being “The supermarket Miss.”
If we allow our children to become so disassociated from the world of reality, death and what makes our bodies tick, how can we hope to save the world for our species survival?
Changes come from society when the majority make the decision and cause the tide of change to occur. The remainder then follow on afterwards until within a period of five years the new way becomes the norm. So lets stop and think, what are the tides of change in this country and what has become the norm?
How about the belief that money is something which does grow on trees, called loans, and that when you are about £40 000+ in debt there are companies which will help you to become bankrupt and write off most of the debts for you.
That eating convenience foods is easier and quicker than cooking for yourself. Cooking is something others do for you and the kitchen is the place to make tea, coffee and microwave whatever you have got from the chiller cabinet of M+S.
Cheap clothes are easy to buy and when you are bored with them, throw them away and get more.
False is perfect, and the more one looks like a dummy in the shop window the better. Thin is in, but reality is, obesity is common. If you have photographs taken, then air-brush out the fat bits and create a new look, a false look. If you don't like the shape of anything you have, then go for plastic surgery.
Meet people on line, they never have to see what you really look like or experience your personality, you can be whoever you wish in cyber space. Even better, create a little cartoon of what you think you look like and flirt to your hearts content, after all its not real.
And that is the part that seems to be growing in our youth today, its not real any more. If you don't like it, then change it, money is easy to get hold of and parents will give them everything, right?
But then, what sort of world have we given them to grow in? The world has shrunk and if a butterfly sneezes in Africa we know about it within hours. The worlds media has to create stories to fuel the obsessive need for news and our passion for the macabre (as long as its not us that is experiencing it of course). Bad news is good news and we lap it up. As a consequence of all this bad news, we have wrapped up children in cotton wool and made them scared to interact. They are forever looking over their shoulders for the next paedophile, rapist, murderer or gang member with drugs to sell. I know of children who have become scared to walk down the road because of the people they don’t know walking down the road at the same time as them. Now that is scary! They are imprisoned within the car and who has given them that fear if it isn’t their parents. They go round in gangs because it is the only way they feel safe and yet the older generation are made to feel threatened by them being in gangs because of the news. They have heard on the TV how many people have been killed by the gangs of youths. Yes, some of them are rough but most are no different to how we used to be when we were their age. Maybe they haven't been taught that respect is a foundation of human interaction but that again is a sign of what parent do and do not teach.
I looked at the teenager in the queue ahead of me and wondered what she would be like as a mother and what she would be teaching her children? That meat when it is raw is dirty and not to be touched? That drinking a litre of vodka when you are 15 years old is OK as long as you don't get caught? That the place to live your best life is sitting in front of a computer on one of the social networking sites playing at living but not actually doing it because you may meet someone and they may attack you? That when you go out you do this in large groups because you are safer that way and will get left alone, except by the boys who will treat you to a beating if you don't do what you should? Or maybe the girls will beat the males because they are showing how ‘laddish’ they can be?
I smiled and thought of the teachers who have the unenviable job of teaching the latest crop of pregnancies how to live a full and rewarding life when half of them don’t really know themselves. I hope there are enough well balanced children out there to keep the country and ostensibly the world on an even keel so we didn’t blow it up or render it an unnecessary part of their computer interactive life.

Saturday, January 16, 2010

If I could be as good as you

Many years ago when I started riding, I would hang around the out door arena and watch people who had their own horses. I would lean on the top rail and watch as their horses turned, cantered, trotted and stopped to what appeared no movement from the rider and the more I watched and the more I had lessons the more I realised how hard this was. Each week I would have a lesson and then grab a tea and sit in the indoor school listening to the lessons the riders were having, keen to pick up any helpful hint although at that stage it was going over my head.
Little did I know how wrapped up I would become and how much horses would enter my soul and remain lodged there.
Anyway, one day I was watching this one woman who I had decided from my limited experience was one of the better riders to have watched and as she came out of the arena I held the gate open for her. As she passed through she turned to me and thanked me for holding the gate open.
“If I could be half as good a rider as you I would be so happy.” I said without realizing.
She smiled and thanked me for the comment but added, “You will one day soon,” and with that she left.

My very first pony came and I learnt a great deal, from falling off to hanging on, from screaming loudly to whimpering in blind panic, but for some inconceivable reason I loved him. We were together for a couple of years but to be honest he was too small for me and I sold him to a woman who was going to use him for her children. He was ideal and he had a good life with them.


Next came Magpie; a black and white terrorist with soft brown eyes and a winning disposition. He was the love of many a person and was used by the riding school to teach new riders and disabled ones. He was a sweet heart and I learned so much. I taught him to go in harness and ride long distances. We had ten great years together and had so much fun. It wasn’t until he was approaching ten years old himself I founds out he had a bone disease in his front end which meant he was always standing on tip toe. Eventually he would be unable to stand but we had had fun and in the summer of his tenth year I had to have him put down. By this time I had been riding for over fourteen years and had forgotten about the desires I had had initially.

I took my time looking for the next one, but to be honest he found me. He too was in the riding school. A baby, he had recently arrived from Ireland and knew little save his liking for me. Every time I walked passed where he was tied up during the day he would grab my coat and pull me to him. In the end I decided to take him out for a ride and fell in love. The latest horse came to me and his name was Murphy. Like Magpie he knew very little but was a very different animal all together. Where Magpie was quiet and gentle, this one was bullish and excited. He would bronco around the indoor school squealing with delight as I rode him around like a cowgirl. His trot was amazing and he would move with such grace and style but he could keep it up for half an hour at a time! I would be purple in the face and sweating as much as him but in the end he developed skills which were a credit to him.

One day I came into the indoor school with Murphy at my side. He had been stuck in his stable for most of the day and was a high as a kite. As the door opened and he saw the sand arena he began to bronc, squealing in such a manner it set the other horses off inside. I knew I was in for an interesting one and taking off my coat and putting on my hat and gloves before I got to the mounting block, I walked up the steps, straddled the horse and we took off. For the next forty minutes we swung from bronco riding to a beautiful trot but he would do anything else.
After forty minutes I started to introduce turns and spins and in the end we did canter without exploding, we changed direction without bucking and we finally came to a halt without plunging. I stood in the middle of the arena and looked around me. It was really the first time I had looked up from my horse. It was almost empty, the horses had got out the way for Chubs (a nick name of his) and now he was calmer they were moving around the arena with confidence.
Io walked Chubs over to the side and picked up my coat and a rug for him; together we steamed gently.
A woman leant over and looked at me saying, “If I could ride half as well as you can I would be so happy. You are a beautiful rider and he is a magnificent horse.”
With a smile I looked at her, “You will one day soon,” and smiling to myself I left to take him down the lane to cool off.

A difference of values

I stood behind a mother and her teenage daughter in the supermarket. The queue was long and protracted and they stood there chatting. In the mother’s right hand she held a piece of rolled beef and in the other a bottle of wine; obviously celebrating, I thought.
The girl poked the meat and watched with fascination as the blood, held in place by the clear plastic wrapping, squished around the piece of meat. She recoiled and with a disgusted look on her face exclaimed a loud, “Eur! That’s disgusting!” Her mother laughed and pointed out she will happily eat it once it is cook.
“But that’s different, its not full of blood, that’s just gross.”
I thought back to when I still taught in schools and remembered the growing response to any form of biological inspection of the inside of anything.
In the early 1980s we still showed the position of organs within an animal and dissected one for them to see it in reality. Some would find it repulsive, but they were few and far between maybe one or two in a class of 28. There were always children fascinated by what they saw and it engaged them enough to not only switch them on to biology but also get some of them to understand the actual size and positioning of organs within themselves. By seeing it in reality they made the connection of it being real, and that these parts were real within them also. In many ways it helped them appreciate so much more, they made connections between animals and the bits they ate. They could connect the idea of breeding for the express purpose of killing for our consumption and this gave them the opportunity to decide whether they continued to buy into it or opt out and become vegetarians (all be it everything except burgers!).
Something changed, I am not sure what it was, but it was fuelled by government intervention which pretty much banned all dissections, so much so there are doctors and surgeons who haven’t seen a live specimen of a human’s insides until they get a chance to operate for real. A scary thought.
So today there are children who have the knowledge to make bombs, use machine guns (in the 3D world of gaming) and spare no mercy when it comes to people they come across. The mow down people in this gaming world and then press the reset button to kill them over again. Do they realise the connection between guns and real blood and real death?
Do they still have any concept of the pretty little lambs bouncing around in a field one minute and lamb burgers in Iceland the next? I was already hearing answers to simple questions such as, where do you think lamb chops come from as being “The supermarket Miss.”
If we allow our children to become so disassociated from the world of reality, death and what makes our bodies tick, how can we hope to save the world for our species survival?
Changes come from society when the majority make the decision and cause the tide of change to occur. The remainder then follow on afterwards until within a period of five years the new way becomes the norm. So lets stop and think, what are the tides of change in this country and what has become the norm?
How about the belief that money is something which does grow on trees, called loans, and that when you are about £40 000+ in debt there are companies which will help you to become bankrupt and write off most of the debts for you.
That eating convenience foods is easier and quicker than cooking for yourself. Cooking is something others do for you and the kitchen is the place to make tea, coffee and microwave whatever you have got from the chiller cabinet of M+S.
Cheap clothes are easy to buy and when you are bored with them, throw them away and get more.
False is perfect, and the more one looks like a dummy in the shop window the better. Thin is in, but reality is, obesity is common. If you have photographs taken, then air-brush out the fat bits and create a new look, a false look. If you don't like the shape of anything you have, then go for plastic surgery.
Meet people on line, they never have to see what you really look like or experience your personality, you can be whoever you wish in cyber space. Even better, create a little cartoon of what you think you look like and flirt to your hearts content, after all its not real.
And that is the part that seems to be growing in our youth today, its not real anymore. If you don't like it, then change it, money is easy to get hold of and parents will give them everything, right?
But then, what sort of world have we given them to grow in? The world has shrunk and if a butterfly sneezes in Africa we know about it within hours. The worlds media has to create stories to fuel the obsessive need for news and our passion for the macabre (as long as its not us that is experiencing it of course). Bad news is good news and we lap it up. As a consequence of all this bad news, we have wrapped up children in cotton wool and made them scared to interact. They are forever looking over their shoulders for the next paedophile, rapist, murderer or gang member with drugs to sell. I know of children who have become scared to walk down the road because of the people they don’t know walking down the road at the same time as them. Now that is scary! They are imprisoned within the car and who has given them that fear if it isn’t their parents. They go round in gangs because it is the only way they feel safe and yet the older generation are made to feel threatened by them being in gangs because of the news. They have heard on the TV how many people have been killed by the gangs of youths. Yes, some of them are rough but most are no different to how we used to be when we were their age. Maybe they haven't been taught that respect is a foundation of human interaction but that again is a sign of what parent do and do not teach.
I looked at the teenager in the queue ahead of me and wondered what she would be like as a mother and what she would be teaching her children? That meat when it is raw is dirty and not to be touched? That drinking a litre of vodka when you are 15 years old is OK as long as you don't get caught? That the place to live your best life is sitting in front of a computer on one of the social networking sites playing at living but not actually doing it because you may meet someone and they may attack you? That when you go out you do this in large groups because you are safer that way and will get left alone, except by the boys who will treat you to a beating if you don't do what you should? Or maybe the girls will beat the males because they are showing how ‘laddish’ they can be?
I smiled and thought of the teachers who have the unenviable job of teaching the latest crop of pregnancies how to live a full and rewarding life when half of them don’t really know themselves. I hope there are enough well balanced children out there to keep the country and ostensibly the world on an even keel so we didn’t blow it up or render it an unnecessary part of their computer interactive life.