Creating Change

OK so look around your home. Is there anywhere you would most certainly NOT want anyone to see? Is there a part of the home which makes you cringe or have you got a part of the house which is so far away from how you would like it you either avoid going there or ignore it because its been like that for so long you fail to notice it any more?
Do you wish to do something about it?
If you do then have a think about these questions and then make a decision based on your findings. If you chose to leave the place as it is then the desire for change isn’t that strong and what you have come up with does not give the compulsion to drive forward. It could be you just haven’t spotted the key factor which is holding it where it is. We are very good at making excuses for not doing things and we have stories to back it up.
I have the one where I cannot get hold of the builder. Well if I called him maybe he would know I need him to come round! See what I mean?
So, let’s start at the beginning;
1. Go round the house and have a dispassionate look at all rooms. Do they reflect what it is you wish them to reflect?
2. Sit down with a cup of tea/coffee and some paper and think about what it is you really want the room to reflect and why. Its important to discover why you want something just as much as it is important to know what. If you want it because you think everyone had this these days and it is what they advertise in the magazines, then question your desires. Are they yours or the need to fit into the mould of expectation?
3. After you have worked out exactly what it is you want and why you want it, think about why it is you haven’t done anything about it up until now. In other words we are looking at the stories we tell ourselves to justify what it is we don’t do.
4. Look at the stories and decide which are excuses and which are genuine. Look at the excuses and decide why it is you have used them to stop you from doing anything up until now.
5. Make the decision as to whether these will continue to run your thinking or whether its time to let them go and move on.
6. If you decide to stay with them the stop at this point there is no point in continuing. If you choose to let the stories go then think about what it is you will gain from making the changes.
7. Begin imagining how it will be with the changes and allow yourself the pleasure of planning the process of change so it becomes more tangible and do-able to coin a modern word.
8. Allow this stage of the process to build up until it becomes a necessity to complete the changing of the room or what-ever. Then do it and follow the plan enjoying the excitement the changes bring.
9. Listen out as you do this for any stories which may get in the way, and make the decision, are they stories kicking in again, or are they genuinely important precautions? If they are genuine then think through the process, don’t abandon the project. Somewhere along the line you have made a poor choice and you are being warned about it. Look over the choices and work out which is the bad choice, then come up with alternatives.
10. Once it is all done, sit back and smile with smug satisfaction that you created the change all by yourself and you will sense it internally because some of the excuses will have been removed from within you as you did it.