If I could wave a magic wand

If I could wave a magic wand over anything for you, what would it be? If I could wave the magic wand and change something you really don’t like, how would you feel? What would you be able to do once, whatever it was, was out of the way and you could just get on, move forward or do whatever I was you wanted to get done?
If there was such a wand and it could be waved how much would it be worth? Would anyone believe it to be true? Yet when we were young we believed in magic wands, we believed it could be magic’d away, at least for a little while.
We would go to our mothers and she would be able to wave her magic wand over the problem or the hurt and, applying her special ointment, she would make it all better. The words, ‘there, there’ and ‘its all OK now, mummy kiss it better’ are still in use today, upturned, tear-stained faces innocently look up into the wonder they call mum and the belief and trust is there for all to see. It may still hurt, but the wand is waved and the hurt eventually goes away because the wand says so and so does mummy.
The children then play house together and if you listen one will also carry the magic wand, and solve the problems in the house; its only as they grow they begin to doubt the magic wand because hurts get bigger and they don’t seem to be able to wave it in the right way any more the stop the pain. They turn t their friends to be told how to think and they have lost control of the wand too, it is thrown to the floor not to be believed in.
Yet, the wand exists
I watched a film the other evening starring John Travolta, called Staying Alive. In that he loses confidence in himself and begins to hate what he stands for and what he has turned into, so he walks back to mums house for a piece of pie and some good old fashioned advice. Well needless to say it makes everything better and he goes back to conquer the world.
How many of us, I wonder, still speak to our mothers to sort out a problem for us, even now? Yet, can they solve it, or is it we find their words the most trusted words? And what happens if your mother wasn’t there for you when you were younger, do you turn to them now, or do you find someone else to confide in? Maybe a best friend, an ex-lover, a sibling—but, do we get the wand waved the way we want, or are we getting a reflection of what they see and not a reflection of what we are feeling?
Interesting.
Richard Bandler, one of the founding fathers of NLP is considered a magician when it comes to getting people to let go of their problems. His magic wand is his ability to use words and the skills to communicate with the unconscious mind, giving it permission to let go of problems which stop the person moving on. To him, there are no problems, just memories which have for some reason been left running when they should have been terminated years before.
I say a problem is a memory which is still running because we haven’t taken the learnings from it so we are ready to close it down and it is these memories which keep the therapists, councillors and the alternative therapists in business.
So let’s get back to the original question, if I could wave a magic wand; what would have to change to make the change, and how would the changes create the change within you which you did so you could make the changes and hence move on?
Re-read it and let the concept slowly sink into the unconscious mind. What changes did you make and how did they change the changes you wanted when you started reading this article?
How much clearer or lighter do you feel about something or are you at the really confused state which comes before something suddenly makes perfect sense?
In waving the magic wand what things have surfaced and what memories can be watched, learnt from and then put on the shelf marked completed/done.